Your destiny in your control?

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After many failed relationships, after many good relationships that you thought would and could never go wrong, the unthinkable breakup comes creeping back up in your blissful relationship. I thought deep once again; is there really a point to even date? Is there a point to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? Most times I get fully engulfed thinking about all the “whys” and all the “ifs” I encountered in my relationships. Most times I end up putting blame in myself, and regretting why I didn’t succumb to the strain in my relationships just to make it work.

Like many ladies, I always felt complete when I was in a relationship. I was among the fortunate once to say “yes, he spoilt me with gifts and more”. He took care of me very well, and that is probably the reason why I felt complete being with him. Then comes the “Me factor”; when I finally put the blame on myself after a relationship turns sour.

Until I went through self-realization and figured making an excuse for a guy is beyond wrong! I am worth it! I am who I am! I am what really matters! If he don’t want this, he don’t know what he is missing! How dare he tell me we should break up? Who does he think he is? He isn’t all that anyway!

All of this empowerment does work. Soon I was awake and nothing seemed bizarre anymore. Gradually, realization of the gap between God and I was made obvious. I forgot my identity as a child of God. I forgot I had a purpose. I sort of forgot what ever I did in my life should be reflection of Christ. It took me a broken heart, pool of tears, sleep less nights, hours in church, to realize what I needed to feel complete once again. All that was needed was to be codependent on Christ and him alone. Being codependent on Christ centers the relationship on Christ. It shows that God is what you and your spouse would eventually fall back on when turbulence occurs. Speaking positively to myself and about myself, about my personal growth with Christ, empowered me! Revealed my true and inner strength, taught me the truth about myself, and what I should be focused on henceforth.

The tongue can be difficult to control, but if we can control it, things will begin to change in our life. Being able to control our tongue, and speak positively about our situations, we will realize how deadly and at the same time beneficial our tongue functions. A lot of times we say things out of anger, and forget that we are proclaiming it upon our own heads. There are two verses in the Bible to meditate on from the book of proverbs. Proverbs 18:21 which says "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof". Proverbs 12:18 says "There is he that speaketh like the piercing of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health." I have learnt throw these two chapters that regardless of my situation here on earth, with all the disappointments I stumble upon, my tongue determines my destiny. I have learnt to confess positively, and behold it shall be

I say this to my single deserving friends that maybe in the past out of pain and disappointments have made comments like “marriage is not for me”, it is important to go on your knees and confess positively- watch how God will never disappoint you.


Anonymous said...

i hv learnt from my tongue. sometimes i hv to flick a finger on my tongue cos damn! it has caused me too much. thank God for giving us d grace

ChinMan said...

Nice post...Very frank and open. Your experiences in life I am sure will give way to a wonderful testimony in the future. Enjoy and make the most of your time now.

Kaduna Girl (Amina) said...

Amen Amen Chinedu! I have a testimony already! God is awesome